I don’t want to male bash, but it’s been my experience that the vast majority of male, massage therapists have overblown and terribly, fragile egos. We’ve gone through several at the studio in the past year. They have an attitude with co-workers. Female co-workers I should say. The bromances are intense and a bit creepy. The women in the office are condescended to. These men act like it’s the 50’s and women are pretty, idiots who need to be directed by a man. Goddess forbid you step up and let them know you’re capable of adulting on your own and, by the way.. have more return clients than they do.
It doesn’t help when the female boss takes the side of the male therapists. They can be late on many occasions or just not show up at all!!. They keep their job, longer than they should. I recently was asked to apologize to a male therapist who physically intimidated me while I was setting my room for a client. Apparently I had said something that upset him. Not knowing he was in the studio. The jerk didn’t come right out and confront me after I said it. No, he sat back in the room and stewed. Waiting for the most awkward moment to confront me. He barely stepped aside when I went to get my room set. The energy he was radiating was very hostile and I did my best to diffuse things. Had the client not been there, I’m sure I’d be out of a job for really upsetting the #1 flying monkey in the office. But, she was and I kept it calm and professional. The front desk woman was freaking out from this asshole’s behavior.
Okay, I did apologize. Apparently, my joking comment struck a raw nerve. The therapist had just had a talk with the boss about the very subject I made a comment on. Bad timing on my part. Did I get an apology? Fuck no! The front desk woman got one, but said it was hollow and insincere. This man is clueless and can’t imagine anything he does is bad or wrong.
I’m getting mighty tired of the bragging, condescension, not owning your shit, passive aggression, and special treatment for owning a penis.
I just want to do my work in a non-hostile, equal, environment.